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Filmmaker: Camilla Butchins

Marlyn Butchins, a middle-aged South African Jewish woman who emigrated to Israel 18 years ago, lost her mother and sister in a bombing in Tel Aviv in 1996.

As the 10th anniversary of the attack approached she decided to bring all of the families of those killed in the blast together to collaborate on a memorial for their lost loved ones.

Her idea was to persuade the relatives to design and make a mini quilt for their lost family member and to then bring all of those small quilts together to form one larger quilt, in a sign of solidarity.

For Marlyn, it was a way to deal with her bereavement, but she quickly discovered that not everybody took the same view.

Patches aired from Tuesday, November 24, 2009.